A Book in Review: You Are a Badass
Have you ever needed a swift kick in the ass to get yourself to do what you already know you should be doing? Or maybe you needed something shown to you in a different light so that you could truly understand it? That’s what You Are a Badass by Jen Sincero was for me.
I wasn’t sure what to expect but I was hooked from the beginning. The book is broken down into five sections covering who you are now and why, being yourself, creating a healthier mindset, overcoming your problems, and moving forward to create the life you want to live. Of course, these are just general descriptions. The actual titles are way more interesting!
While I loved the whole book, things got real for me in Part 4: How to Get over Your B.S. Already. I actually stopped reading the book right before this and it took me a while to finally brave my way through but I’m so glad I did. I mean come on, the title alone was a clue on how real it was about to get.
The first chapter in this section was all about the stories you tell yourself subconsciously (or consciously in some cases) and re-writing it in a way that would no longer hold you back. For example, if you tell yourself you’re not worthy of love, how are you going to be open to receiving it? You have to acknowledge it, recognize the benefits you were getting from thinking that way, and then rewrite it so that you can be open to receiving love as you move forward. I’ll be honest. I had a long list but it was cathartic to get it all out and recognize the stress and pain I was putting on myself.
The next chapter in this section called Millions of Mirrors also stood out to me. I used to wonder how some people could not give two cents about something that happened but others (probably myself included) would be all worked up about it. Jen points out:
Our reality is a mirror of our thoughts, the people in our reality included.
If someone else is driving you crazy, it’s probably because whatever they’re doing makes you think of yourself and you don’t like it. Sometimes it’s pretty obvious why you’re mad at someone but not always. This made me look at getting irritated with people in a whole new light.
In the last section of the book, there’s a chapter called ‘Remember to Surrender’. My favorite quote in this section says:
Doubt is resistance, faith is surrender. Worry is resistance, joy is surrender. Control is resistance, allowing is surrender.
Lately, I’ve been getting reminders to surrender in different ways. One of them was an email from a fellow blogger that quoted Dan Webster. It said, “Commitment is me trying. Surrender is me trusting.” It’s hard for me to surrender when I spend so much time thinking of my long to-do list and how little time I have to do it. Given this is America, I’m sure I’m not alone in this. Surrendering to God’s will can be hard even when you do have him as your focus so these reminders have become affirmations for me as I try to get better about it.
I know that was a lot but hopefully, now you have a better idea of how you can benefit from this book if you haven’t read it yet. And don’t worry. If you think I now have it all figured out, that’s definitely not the case but I am inspired and armed with valuable resources and tools to help me move forward. I also have a better picture of my ideal life so that I have a clear focus on those days that I struggle.
If you’ve read the book, I’d love to hear some of your favorite lessons or quotes! If you haven’t read it yet, go get it!